I LOOOOVE Cancer season, and Cancer people. As an Aquarian, it can be hard for me to connect with and express my emotions, but they show us how it's done. (Excuse the very broad generalizations ¯\_(ツ)_/¯)
While we should embrace every emotion that comes up because each one has something to teach us, it's not necessary to dwell in painful recurring emotions. I learned this super simple exercise from David R. Hawkins' Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender~
Letting go involves being aware of a feeling, letting it come up, staying with it, and letting it run its course without wanting to make it different or do anything about it. It means simply to let the feeling be there and to focus on letting out the energy behind it. The first step is to allow yourself to have the feeling without resisting it, venting it, fearing it, condemning it, or moralizing about it. It means to drop the judgment and to see that is just a feeling. The technique is to be with the feeling and surrender all efforts to modify it in any way. Let go of wanting to resist the feeling. It is resistance that keeps the feeling going. When you give up resisting or trying to modify the feeling, it will shift to the next feeling and be accompanied by a lighter sensation. A feeling that is not resisted will disappear as the energy behind it dissipates.
It's really as simple as it sounds, and Cancer Season is perfect for giving it a try. We're human, we have emotions, and that's wonderful (and sometimes shitty), but we can feel much lighter by not attaching our SELVES to those feelings. It's an exercise that will have to be repeated over and over, but as the layers of our hard shells are peeled back, more of our unconditioned selves are revealed.